Does anyone care about you? Like truly care? I ask because I have spoken with a lot of hurting and broken people lately. Some of them outright tell me that they are struggling with self-esteem, productivity, and wondering if anyone cares about them. Some of them try to pretend like everything is okay but let me give you a little hint about hanging out with me….I CAN USUALLY SEE THROUGH IT. Now, some people even pay me to in essence care about them through life coaching. The crazy thing is that I would care no matter what, but when they pay money for it out of their own pocket they tend to be more prone to actually make life altering changes, but that is not why I am writing this post.
I am writing this almost as a continuation of my previous post. If you didn’t catch my drift the first time around I need you to know that the Lord has been stirring my heart filling me with joy, peace, excitement, and all kinds of other happy words as he has begun to show me some of the potential in the people around me. There is nothing I love more than seeing someone dream big, go after it, and then begin to dream even BIGGER. But I am beginning to see a pretty crucial pattern.
In order to actually have any type of success in going after these awesome dreams you HAVE to HAVE to HAVE to choose to surround yourself with the right people. Think about it, do you have some habits or tendencies that might contribute to you not always shining or getting the things that you want to get done done? Let me suggest something possibly offensive….If that is the case, then the people around you do not care about you. Why the HELL would they know you and not want to see you live up to your potential? Cause let me tell you something, we’ve all got more in us and I want someone to pull it out of me even if it means an uncomfortable conversation or two of them saying, “get off your ass and start pouring into all of the things you were meant to”. And if you are of the non-profanity speaking crowd you might need someone to tell you, “Seriously, dude (or dudette) pull yourself together, let’s work through your “stuff” and do all that it takes to get you ready to conquer your dreams”!
How do we do this? Seek out the people that are kicking butt at what they do and ask them for help. If I am in a room with tons of people I always find myself gravitating towards the people that I know are doing big things, or possibly doing smaller scale things but with lots of success and most importantly a positive attitude. The people who have a stinky attitude about all that they are doing in their life are the ones I would get as far away from as possible. Obviously they need love and a revelation about their own potential, but if you are not in the place to be that for them then walk away and find someone to help you get there yourself.
Go out of your way to spend time with people who will challenge you, push you, love you, encourage you, and listen to you. If you truly can’t think of anyone in your life who would be that to you then you need to pay someone to do it. Yeah, I know that is a weird concept, but find a life coach or someone that is going to help you become your best. It is worth it and as you work on stuff with them people will begin to see your transformation and friends will not be a problem.
Exercise: Make a list of people in your life who you think truly care about you. Be completely exhaustive. Think of everyone. Now narrow it down to the ones that you admire for what they are doing and accomplishing. Now find things in your week that take up your time and trade them out for contact with those people.
Example: Do you go get coffee every week with some friends or family who only talk negatively about everything? Instead contact one of the people on your list and set up a skype date if they don’t live close by. It is important, and if they are truly a quality person who qualifies to be on your list then they will probably go out of their way to find time to pour into you. IT IS WORTH IT!
No I am not writing a post about how much I loved to hear Amy Grant sing “Grown Up Christmas List” every year at her Christmas concert growing up although I am Amy G’s biggest fan. Duh. This may be one of the seemingly cheesiest posts I have ever written, but I hope that you can see where it is coming from which is some place deep down inside of me.
Okay but seriously, this year for my birthday I got to thinking about what I wanted. “what do I want?, what do I REALLY REALLY WANT?” Well, of course there was the obvious material things that I wanted:
* Lululemon gift cards and apparel (duh)
* Bare Escentuals giftscards my new obsession because our roomie got me hooked on their amazing mineral make-up
* Gift cards to restaurants (if you only knew how bad my obsession with food was
* a new pair of Toms ….which I am pretty sure are wrapped and under the tree thanks to my awesome hubbo wink wink
My birthday was December 3rd and I was beyond blessed with love, kind words, gifts (my #1 love language), food (my #2 love language), fun time, laughter, and just soo many good things. I mean, it was such a great day. I truly have amazing people in my life.
Now, switching gears a bit I began thinking about all of the people that have been in my life this past year and some of the conversations I was blessed to have. At that point I came up with a new list of what I wanted:
*Please don’t read this the wrong way because these things are all for me as well, there are just some patterns I have been noticing which caused me to realize how important having amazing friends is.
* I want my friends and colleagues to see all of their potential
* I want them to walk in confidence, knowing who they are and that they are a BIG DEAL ( you reading this right now are a BIG DEAL)
* I want people to begin to choose to surround themselves with the right people and relationships. I want them to distance themselves from negative people, and people who just drag them down.
* I want them to stop selling themselves short
* Stop dreaming too small
* Start filling their minds with positive thoughts and words
* Start going after BIIIIIG things
* Start asking for help when needed
* and sooo much more that has been going through my mind
Wow, as I write this my heart is just being overwhelmed with excitement about the things that God is up to. I have recently seen some people in my life begin to even just start to see some of the amazing potential they have in them and how their countenance has changed. They walk taller, smile more often, say things I have never heard them say. And I benefit from all of this. When others around you begin to line themselves up with the awesome and amazing truths of the Father they begin to challenge and push me/you to do the same. I need this. People, I need you to be your best you so you can help me be my best you. I mean, I get it this sounds sooo crazy, silly, girly, mushy, etc but if you could just see what I am dreaming you would be super excited too! Lets do it people.
what would be on your grown up Christmas list? ….no more lives torn apart? that wars would never start? Okay, but seriously.
This week is a week of new beginnings. James and I packed up our 2 bedroom apartment and moved to a 3 bedroom just a few miles away. The best bonus of our new location is that it is less than a mile from Whole Foods! Moving has made me sooo tired. School starts tomorrow so James and I have been frantically trying to bring loads from the old apartment to the new apartment and unpack things so that we can get as much done before homework becomes a distraction. The hardest part has been doing it all with two energetic toddlers playing at our feet. Tonight for dinner I made another yummy casserole that I will try and blog sometime this week.
Wanna see some pics from the moving process? I thought so.
EMBRACING CHANGE AND EXCITED TO SEE WHAT IS NEXT!